#426: How To Go Deep and Figure Out What Moves Your Needle Part 2
Intro to the sweat equity podcast. (0:02)
What is your professional life like? (4:36)
The importance of giving back to the community. (9:14)
Can't do it right. (15:14)
Diminishing returns of giving back. (20:04)
How to stop thinking about happy. (27:16)
How we got into the sport. (32:54)
SUMMARY KEYWORDS
kids, dad, people, talking, joke, work, sweat equity, years, feel, put, clips, podcast, give, rover, teaching, weird, condescending, dammit, told, improved
SPEAKERS
Speaker 1 (61%), Eric (35%), Law (1%), Speaker 2 (1%)
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Speaker 1
0:02
I didn't realize I'm video I look like Flock of Seagulls because my hair is flopped over to one side. My bucket. It's all messed up, but I used to go. Oh, you got big bucket. Yeah, that's how I roll. Bucket style. You know, it's not bucket sweat equity podcast, the number one comedy business podcast in the world
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
0:25
already did the thing.
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Speaker 1
0:27
Give me some more. You know, you don't have to be shrewd with the horn.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
0:32
It doesn't feel right a second time. I should have done that. And
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Speaker 1
0:36
maybe a little flair about it. Listen to us on iTunes, Apple podcast, Spotify, any app that has podcasts. Really? subscribe, rate us five stars. You're listening to us right now we're in your homes. Why don't you go get your finger hold. Don't be unable to give us a five star review. Yeah, subscribe to the pod and share it with a friend lovely coworker. This episode is brought to you by the way our guests didn't show.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
1:09
Yeah, that's why it was just the two of us. So we're gonna be a double episode. Just so you know. You're gonna hear this intro twice. And on the mistake.
1:16
Yeah, but we get real deep. Like,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
1:19
this is a good one, like hitting
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Speaker 1
1:20
that you IUD. And that lady's gash. I up your ID,
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
1:29
though. You got it. I was like, I'm sorry. I went to Afghanistan.
1:33
I know. Yeah, I was saying, I assume
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
1:35
you got it wrong.
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Speaker 1
1:37
Your dick hits the birth control thing all the way in the back room. That's the thing I was going for. Oh, yeah. I don't think our sponsors want to be affiliated with this. So let's I'll teach you about it later. get this party started sweat?
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Speaker 1
2:23
Listening to the sweat equity Podcast. I'm meandering. But I'm getting kind of back among backroads. But I'm gonna get back onto the highway.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
2:33
Oh, you have a plan here.
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Speaker 1
2:34
Yeah. And then I'm gonna kick it over to you. Oh, so that doesn't happen. I find this interesting because I'm like, I'm trying to teach them that to like, everything's pretty much incentives and penalties, right. So if you're in the middle, right, and you want something, you got to be incentivized penalty. If you go hurt others to steal from others. You're gonna get penalized, right? And so, I go, like, Okay, drink your water. Tomorrow. I'll get you this thing for my craft that costs $5 Whatever. It's like, a pair of pants or something. I'm like, I don't know why you want this. Yeah. And now I'm getting videogame angry. I'm like, why?
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
3:21
Minecraft will
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Speaker 1
3:22
piss you off when you're like this is you just want a tunic. This is for Zelda
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
3:25
right? No, it's not even the graphics are new and as good as Zelda. Yeah. Minecraft. You look at it and you're like, whatever you just pay for. I feel like I can make it somehow.
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Speaker 1
3:35
Larry still no email. And he called me out. Do you call back email
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
3:39
from layer? I doubt it. Larry Jesus,
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Speaker 1
3:46
I keep my phone on Do Not Disturb because I'm a professional. And so I pretty I realized I keep it on probably about 80% of my week. A lot of hours. Good for you are and sleeping I guess for you. Well, the phones the biggest distraction during the work day, and I don't really need I know myself. Especially with dating apps. Because you're like, Oh, you don't you can start chatting it up. Yeah. Yeah, this door wants it. It's a totally, that's a totally aims. Yeah. So. So he didn't do it. He didn't drink the water and then cried, and I started to break it down. But like, you already said that. Yeah. And my thing is just like, everything surrounds that for parenting. I'm guessing teaching.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
4:39
Kinda Yeah. I mean,
4:41
your professional life for sure. Is that
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
4:44
Well, I mean, yeah, in a professional sense, but we're not talking about teaching. Do this. It's it's literally like every 48 minutes a new adventure. So I'm what's gonna happen next, I'm
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Speaker 1
4:57
hounding you to write a book As you're coming in almost like 21 Jump Street Yeah. Where are you don't have the teaching background right yet kind of a layup to get.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
5:11
I mean, ya know, I mean the job itself like, you know getting into too much but very convenient for me locally and like all that and. And you administration
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Speaker 1
5:21
and as we took the ASTER strategies personality test the best one for your professional Yeah, it did say like your best at managing
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
5:30
Oh, weird. No, I think it said I was a teacher. Well, yeah,
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Speaker 1
5:34
that goes under manage. I forgot all about that. Yeah, we should take that again, because we're coming up on about six years of it. And I want to say longer. It was 2017 I'm pretty sure it's November.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
5:48
Okay. Yeah, I forgot about that.
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Speaker 1
5:51
Yeah. And I Yeah. And it said, like, you're, you're and I was like, that's great. Because if we ever scaled the agency, you'd be better on that side of teaching, you know, because you'd have to teach a lot of people no matter if they're specialists in whatever. You still have to be good at teaching and teaching them how to teach. Yep. All right. So. So you need to write a book.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
6:15
Yeah. Probably
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Speaker 1
6:16
if you if you chipped away at it every day. Let's say you just dictated notes. Yeah, for five minutes. Every school day.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
6:23
Yeah, I'm gonna. I'm gonna. It's just man. It's just like, the actual hours of it. It is draining. Oh, yeah. It's a good draining, you're outside? Not yet. Everything's in the everything's in the gym that the school is a nice gym. So it's
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Speaker 1
6:42
not like, well, it's 95 degrees in Tampa so that it's ungodly, hot. This is the worst. This is the hottest summer I can remember. And then, every time I've said it, someone's been like, you know, it's the hottest summer recorded history around the world. I'm like, Yeah, I don't really care about. Yeah, I don't want to get into it. Because I don't want to get into a global warming thing. Oh, you know, that's what, that's what that's that fun facts about
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
7:06
to start turning USA. You?
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Speaker 1
7:08
Well, I'm like, like, because the end result is we can't do much about it. Because it's corporations and their rights. This is kind of did you
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
7:17
recycle your water bottles.
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Speaker 1
7:19
And we grew up, we grew up to things in the 90s. Thinking, if you had sex, you're gonna get AIDS. Which, you know, looking at COVID And how many? I think those will parallel each other on how much bad information was going out? Yeah. I don't know. And some on purpose. I don't know, you know, or to not hurt feelings.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
7:41
I Dude, it is like, I'm just gonna wait in for when it all comes out in 10 years, or whatever really happened. You know, like, whatever that what that was okay, let me know. But it's just like, I don't have the energy to try and figure it out. The more I
LS
Law Smith, Fractional CMO, ...
7:56
know about how like, like, messaging was corrupted, and information was corrupted. And it's like, this feels like what you read about with the AIDS epidemic in the 90s. Which the the common link in both? Is Bouchy. Interesting, yeah, yeah. So anyway, that is I
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
8:19
know what I need to say. I've been watching winning time on HBO. Just thinking of sex with AIDS. Loved it. Yeah. Yeah. Anyways,
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Speaker 1
8:28
the, the two things in the 90s that were kind of a ruse was, was HIV. If you have sex, you're probably going to get AIDS, which frightened us as we got older,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
8:41
right. And now actually, I remember seeing on Nickelodeon that they said, You cannot get AIDS from Yeah, but
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Speaker 1
8:49
what year? That was a kid. You can't get it from touching.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
8:53
No, it laid it all out. In a fun way. But
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Speaker 1
8:58
it is really for gay dudes. Like, oh, I'd say that. Yeah. Right. Right. Or heroin addicts. Right. Very small percentage. Probably very specific. Yeah. The other the other is global warming. I was thinking to Nickelodeon, the big help. When I was starting. Oh, really? Yeah.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
9:15
I can remember the logo we written recently. It was a
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Speaker 1
9:18
telethon. They would do once a year. And I remember calling him like a nerd. Like idealistic little nerd kid, like, I'll do I'm gonna donate four or five hours or something shit like that.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
9:30
Taking hours, it was like hours and hours donated or
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Speaker 1
9:34
something like that, or because kids aren't money so that you had to call in and be like, how are you gonna volunteer?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
9:41
It was I mean, you know, good idea. That's it. If they're saying pick up trash and all this stuff, like of course, that's good. Stuff like that. But you know, the thing about if you better recycled plastic bottles, or how's the old news only gonna keep going just like, it's why put that on me. I'm 12 I'm gonna bring it on me now.
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Speaker 1
10:01
I'm gonna bring it I'm gonna go xenophobic again, like we did with the aliens on the last episode. Why is it always America? Why are we always feeling like we don't make nearly as much food yet? China's idea?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
10:15
Right? Yeah.
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Speaker 1
10:16
And so it's like, and we have regulations on that they don't even they, there's they're like, it's like, might as well be the Easter Bunny. It's like, yeah, we got regulations too. Yeah, no, no,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
10:28
I don't see that. And then.
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Speaker 1
10:31
And then all the undeveloped countries, you know, they don't
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
10:36
even know what they're doing are much smaller. This is bad. Nobody told us
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Speaker 1
10:40
they light shed on fire. As refuse doesn't burn it. Which I don't know if
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
10:47
we're gonna get rid of somebody just burn it.
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Speaker 1
10:49
Yeah, so big deal. So that's like, forgot why we got here.
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Speaker 2
10:53
The edible kicked in? Well, this is terrible. Alright, so
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Speaker 1
10:57
your coaches feel bad. I think you have a unique perspective, though. I also think if you start getting up on stage again, it'll also it'll help you think in that joke way. Yeah, a lot more. Because like going to do an open mic. It's not really about like it if the, even if it's a shitty one. It makes you think about material and it makes you think about writing beforehand on the drive, at least for me,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
11:26
from the experts. Well, I
11:28
mean, I'm saying it
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
11:29
leaves all my bits on the drive over the venue.
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Speaker 1
11:31
Well, don't do like me, but I'm saying like, it at least makes you think about writing jokes. And then I'll put you in that kind of headspace. So yeah,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
11:40
I mean, the cool thing about middle schoolers is like, I can unleash the dad jokes, too. eye rolls, and I'm still having a good time. Right? Because it's like, because you do the other kids, the other kid, the other coaches. They're also rolling their eyes, you know, but like, they get what I'm doing. They get the fun of it.
12:02
There's like, like, what? Give me an example.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
12:06
Minute to Minute just messing around. You know,
12:09
you gotta go do this. My art. I can't.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
12:13
I'm an artist. No joke artist.
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Speaker 1
12:16
It's like, when you go to the party, my friends would go, Oh, he's a comedian. Talk to him. And like, God, you Kyle like, god dammit, dude. And then they'll be like, then I then I come off like a real asshole.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
12:29
Right? When you're like, I'm not gonna perform for you, Dick. Well, I'm
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Speaker 1
12:32
an asshole in any situation. Really? This comes up, they're gonna tell me a joke. And I go, I'm not your fucking jukebox. Told me a joke. I go, it doesn't really work like that. But you know, what are you didn't pay me to be here is another one. Okay? Because that makes I feel like I'm old school. Last
12:51
$20 Yeah, I go, I'll tell you a joke.
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Speaker 1
12:55
And then they're like, God, you gotta really stick in the mud. I'm like, what if I came to work and knocked the deck out?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
13:03
Yeah, but ya know, it's just, they're condescending, like, perform monkey do it.
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Speaker 1
13:08
I know. Or my Oh, the most. The one I catch all the time. I got two of these that get grouped. unfairly put together. So like people go, how are you little skits doing? And I'm like, Why does it have to be a little skit? You're actually pretty big. Why did you just even talk? Like, if you don't know the vernacular? Why would you take take a stab?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
13:33
Right? It's such a weird thing. Because they're doing a thing. Where they're, they're putting you
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Speaker 1
13:38
down. I found it. I found this out over it took me 20 years.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
13:42
Maybe? They might not know they're consciously. Right. Exactly. They're, they're saying, okay, normal humans ask about people and how they're doing. But I think this about what they do. This person does. And I just can't say it normal. Like I have to. I have to get that little. Now a little little
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Speaker 1
14:05
because people that don't know what to ask they go I'm not sure what? Your act or something. Right? Oh, then I'm all ears. I'll tell them everything. Yes,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
14:14
I will talk about it all day. If it's like a genuine curiosity and like not this. We know when it's condescending. I started
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Speaker 1
14:21
picking up on this. If someone puts Lille in front of like something you're doing that is they know about it. It's obviously a big part of your life. Right? Like, how's your little deck project? Yeah, you're building on your own? Yeah. And then the other one I noticed too, when people say they say the especially outside of Florida, they'll group Florida just altogether. So if my friends introduce me, they'll go, oh, this is La he's from Florida. And I'm I'm I'm more than, but I was like if I was from St. Louis. I'd say he's from St. Louis. And I'm saying It's a weird grouping I've noticed not as bad as little sketches or skits.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
15:04
But yeah, that gets me little little
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Speaker 1
15:07
people do with the podcast too. When I talked, they talked to me. How's your little podcast doing? I go, why?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
15:14
I mean, why you got to do that? I haven't heard that one in a longtime.
15:19
Oh, well, my friends. That sounds half
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
15:21
of that. Now your friends are gonna hear this and say it on purpose. So half of its
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Speaker 1
15:25
condescending to acquaintances that they know this is the Rogan experience. Right? Yeah. But they see clips on their feed. They don't interact with it. But they'll go like, you know, that again, they might be genuinely curious. But don't know how to
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
15:44
phrase just can't do it. Right? Can't do it. But
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Speaker 1
15:49
you know what I've done once. A dozen times. I go, they'll go, how's your how's your little skits doing? Then I'll go. What do you do for work? And they'll tell me and I'll go, Oh, how's your little accounting firm doing?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
16:05
Like, little mortgages? How's
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Speaker 1
16:07
your tiny penis? CPA business? Like, if I'm in the zone? And I don't give a fuck, I will. I can do that. Yeah. Because I feel like I'm getting my tackle. Yeah, no.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
16:18
All right. I do this. I mean, it's same. I do the same.
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Speaker 1
16:22
So Coach, rad, you're out there. You're wheeling and dealing, wheeling
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
16:26
and dealing kind of actually, you put it that way? I don't know. And it's it's you talk about that beat dads not saying that. That's like a conflict. But these kids have a need, for sure. And I'm in a weird position. I'm in a weird position, because it's like, we've got four coaches. I don't have a designated grade level. So I just help them all which means I also
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Speaker 1
17:00
your rover I might do to Barbie. Yes. Yes. Going rover. Yeah. But rover means you can lick but or you're the best. We'll go to the second one. If you're a rover and baseball, softball, and they put you like, because you have to you have to you stink so bad. They're like, Hey,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
17:21
why wouldn't a rover be better because they cover more ground?
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Speaker 1
17:24
Yeah, it's either the best or the worst. But I was always a bad case. Like, how about you be a second second baseman? Really, we'll just go between right field and second, we're going to a new position for you suck. So
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
17:39
we're playing one and a half bass. Basically, we're
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Speaker 1
17:41
gonna play eight men. Baseball even in the box versus nine. Anyway, so you're the replacement dad. That's what you're saying?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
17:52
I didn't say that. The kids, there's definitely and it's been told to us because it's not just me. There's another new male coach. Who's He's awesome. We get along great. Like, right on the same same wavelength. And I told you, like we've already had, you know, people be like, that's never been like this before. And he and I are just rolling in there, like dads. You know, just being like, what do you like? It's hard to explain, but like, I was talking about, for me my position. I'm not necessarily having to take roll of an individual class every time. I have the I like the ability to kind of move around. And zero in on the real pains in the ass.
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Speaker 1
18:40
You're the Hamburger Helper. Okay, like you already got the yada yada I'll go to Hamburger Helper. But you're coming into to be, you know, that little zoo, you're that? Well, I mean, extra credit guy.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
18:54
It's one of those things I just going in myself recognize, like, a need to like kind of focus on certain kids. And if you can get like, you know, it is middle school, like things cascade where it's like, if you can get certain kids in certain spots start behaving differently. Things will follow, hopefully, but um, I don't know, it's good, man. Like, I had one kid that's not good. He's in trouble a lot. But he wants me to come to his football game on Saturday. I'm like, dammit, I need to go to this kid's football game. I gotta take my kids as kids like
19:34
that. So that's no you say no, you
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
19:36
say no. But like, man, I'm telling you like these kids. They need specific things and like, I know it's all it's somewhat selfish on my end just because I'm seeing the benefit that will be for myself.
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Speaker 1
19:52
It's psychological egoism. That's what that's called. Explain. So like volunteering. There's not the philosophy around it is that oh, yeah, there's no truism. Yeah, which is fine, right. But here's where this has diminishing returns. And what I was kind of worried about when you were telling me about this the other day, I thought about later, I was like, You're gonna have to find a weird area where you got to be like the good, positive male figure. But you can't extend it too far into real life. Because you know, that you can't take on that amount of people. The Dunbar's numbers 150, right.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
20:32
Fuck Dunbar's number, you can I got 100 I know that sounds like but I mean, that's, but what I was saying is like, going to every kid's football game. No, it's not my job. But if I can make a difference for this kid, it'll be different for the other kids and they'll see okay, like, we don't have to do what we've been doing. Like. I don't know. It's crazy, man. I you know, you do principal gets on. He told me he said we love you every day.
20:59
That's cool. Yeah, it's a public school.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
21:01
It's a public school.
21:02
That's cool. Yeah.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
21:04
Because these kids, it's weird, man. Like, I see the trouble kids. And I've had to, like, I've got a few that I'm like, Come on, man, work with me here. And they'll, they'll start doing stuff. And I look at them. And I can see them looking for me. It's like, they just want attention. They just want to, they just want to have like, the they're used to just doing whatever they want walking around. Now listen to the teacher and get attention that way. But it's like, Oh, you just talk to him for a second. You know, like, figure out what's going on?
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Speaker 1
21:33
I think if you do because it sounds like you're gonna be on the basketball coach like that. I think that's your way of really connecting. So Oh, yeah,
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
21:43
I've already I use that all the time. Really only
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Speaker 1
21:45
the cool kids that can dribble. I mean, the trouble ones that, like can't play a sport, you know, they're lost cause,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
21:52
right? I have nothing to hold on.
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Speaker 1
21:53
Well, you can't. It's tough because you do you, you do have a good heart for this like just need like since I've ever known you used to think we used to do the MRIs for homeless people that's like, that's except insanely nice thing to do to drive around and be like, here I have the I prepackaged these, just in case I ran into someone because I see them around town. That is the thoughtfulness of it is very nice. However, it's one of those things we're by and maybe this is my projection, but it's like, I would go I gotta make sure I got all my ducks in a row first to be able to help that kid's life.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
22:37
Yes, because I understand completely what you're saying. Yeah. And I know you're looking out for me. It's but the other circumstances, outside of all this in my life, which you're familiar with. And it just put it simply, it's just been like a whirlwind hurricane of uncertainty and not knowing, like, all this stuff, where it's like, I'm to the point where like, I control very little, I have control over like five things. Right? And this scenario is one where it's like, they're not in high school yet. They're not they're not too far gone.
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Speaker 1
23:18
You really, you're, you're gonna put a leather jacket on when it gets colder.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
23:22
I'm gonna put that chair around your Michel face later. So yeah. We'll have to wait till it's cold.
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Speaker 1
23:30
I don't want to pull you back from being idealistic. I don't think it's a bad thing. I just think it is.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
23:35
The problem is there's no other way to be. Well, yeah, in this scenario, do you because as soon as you're like, useful, you know, like, then it's what are you doing?
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Speaker 1
23:44
Yeah, I, my thing is strategy wise. I think there's a way to do both without giving too much of yourself, right? Like, business dad, Dean Akers. He's there for us when we need anything. Right. Right. But he's not he doesn't dote on anybody. Yeah. And I think that's a good parenting kind of way, right? He's very thoughtful, and he'll go out of his way to get a hole, you know, sometimes, or if you call him he'll get right back to you. Yeah. And he kind of just drops knowledge and we leave the room and we work for him.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
24:22
Yeah, I mean, all this is so early on. It's like doing two weeks in Yeah. But you know, just big picture sort of thing. It's like you got to kind of decide on the mindset you're going to have going into it where it's like, you really can't just write people off, especially kids, because like I've already seen it with a couple kids in particular where it's like, they were the biggest pain in the ass and now they're not. They're just not and like I that's something I cling on to like I I have to like
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Speaker 1
25:00
Do you come up down and be like, hey, you know, the first week I hand you it's a little rough. But
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
25:06
today I did it two days actively. Yes. Today I did it. Like that was that always meant to be overheard, it was overheard by another couple other kids. And like, who's your favorite? And then the one guy that came up to me it's like, I know I'm your least favorite. But who's your favorite? Like, you're not my least favorite. No
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Speaker 1
25:24
one. You gotta go. I love you have to make a joke. I love all Oh, yeah.
ER
Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
25:31
Everything he is my least favorite. Right. But still. That's something well, this the same kid that yeah, I don't I don't mention either. Stories. Either way. It's just, you know, when you can see them the needle move this quickly. It's encouraging. What's it's, it gives you the juice to like, be excited to go to work to, like,
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Speaker 1
26:00
I will look, that's a big thing with any professional, anything you're doing right? Not what makes you happy for your career or just your job right now. It's, it's really, what makes you satisfied. Right? Right. What is the thing at the end of the day that you go? I feel like I made a difference. Now look, if money if making as much money as possible makes you satisfied, then that's fine. Right? It's different for everybody. I'm not looking at this morally. I'm looking at this, like, what's the or you know, like,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
26:37
right, well, I guess the needle move. It's like what moves you need a what makes in your mind say I to accomplish something today? Like I love working
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Speaker 1
26:43
with small businesses, because I love going like you were here. We were part of the thing that got you to hear. Right? You know, yes. If they really listened to us, we'd be way up there. It'd be a hockey stick on the graph. Just had to get the but yeah.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
27:02
It's it's something people got to figure out what what actually makes you satisfied. And, you know, there's gonna be some people out there that can't say out loud. You know, like, I just feel you know, like, this made me feel like I did that.
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Speaker 1
27:16
When people say Happy a lot, right? What has happened now and becoming an old man and I correct on my goal is to stop thinking about happy. It's almost like a perfect circle. It's doesn't really exist. It's like it you'll drive yourself nuts. Right? Trying to find happiness, right?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
27:32
Yeah, I didn't wake up whistling zippity doo, Donna, my answer was rolling my life.
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Speaker 1
27:37
But what makes you content? What makes you satisfied day to day, what makes you feel like you live contributed?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
27:44
Yeah, you contributed something, whether that's working at McDonald's, whatever, it doesn't matter, just like, you have to have your own positive mindset about it. Because that might be that like, you might be in high school and work at McDonald's. And maybe you feel self conscious about it. But you can turn that around in your own mind and say, No, I'm gonna
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Speaker 1
28:06
move up the corporate ladder. But, but I used to claim as an example, because how do you get fast food workers? 10 never say You're welcome. You have a career path for these employees. You have, you have a positive kind of track form. You have all these things set up. That that pulls these people the good people toward you. Right? It's hard to get a job at Chick fil A. Yeah. for entry level people.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
28:38
I saw the thing that said UPS drivers make 140 grand a year. And it was actually an article about how they negotiated up to 170. I'm gonna have to chat GPT
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Speaker 1
28:46
please do I did look up by the way. We get any pragmatic advice on here. Chat GP work for UPS, chat. GPT. Make 140k Chat. GPT has an app. They didn't always have that. So now. I honestly find it a lot. I use a lot more now than Bard. But
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
29:08
take it to dinner. I asked how many people for to what? Table for one zero. Binary joke.
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Speaker 1
29:18
Dude, that crushed. I wish we had to use it tomorrow. I wish we had it tomorrow in the gym like late night talk show laugh track. laughter as of September 20 Oh, asked how many? What's the percentage of mothers in the United States that are single moms? I did this like 30 minutes ago. Okay, got about one we're kind of more or less talking about that. Because I'm curious. Right. What do you what do you think?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
29:47
What was the how many mothers are single mothers? Yeah.
29:50
What's the percentage in the US? 41 this will be as of September 2021. Oh, wait, hold
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
29:58
on, then. Single 30s 40s not
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Speaker 1
30:01
divorced moms. I think that's the difference. Okay. 41 just single mother 41 I'm talking about single mom. It's single moms I think implies full time as of all the time.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
30:15
I mean, so let's go other list children is how many kids are fatherless is what we're talking about. It
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Speaker 1
30:23
was trying to get to Yeah. Okay, right. How many deadbeat dads what's the percentage deadbeat dads?
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
30:31
Still be 41 I'm gonna say 28 then,
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Speaker 1
30:34
yeah, that's closer to 23% which is a lot. Yeah, you're talking about a quarter of adults. were raised by a book. Pretty much a beleaguered mom. You know, right. No
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
30:48
male influence a strong male because like dad wanted you know, the psychology with the dad thing. It's mess you up. And dads.
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Speaker 1
30:56
I feel like golf. Moms way more important than the front nine. Dads back nine. Yeah. That's any of my any of the gals. You know, when we were in high school that were turbos. Let's never marry a dad around or the data was like, a piece of shit. Yeah.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
31:16
You know, it's for sure. Like, yeah,
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Speaker 1
31:18
I put up the apathetic dads in this category, too.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
31:23
Right. Yeah, goes back to attention. You know, giving them attention, you know, rich
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Speaker 1
31:27
dads that were like they provided everything but they accept themselves. Right. That's deep. Yeah, so that's why that's so that's not even the divorce moms right? That have the shitty situation, Dad? Yeah. You know, many times I've been told in the last couple of years I hurt I, I used to date a girl that told me like, Well, why do you have to schedule like, you should just see them on the weekends in like, an afternoon on Wednesday. Do you think that's why it's
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
32:02
such a crazy thing that I used to be the standard standard? Yeah. And I said, Dad, what do you need to be?
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Speaker 1
32:07
What are you talking about? More than weekend? He thought that was the default. And I was like, you seriously think that like, no, here's the deal. If you don't do anything wrong, you get them 5050 If you want them, right, and then I saw it dawned on her that it was like,
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
32:22
oh, god dammit,
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Speaker 1
32:25
dammit. That was a rough day. But then since then, I've heard like, I've heard it's my ears to it. And so I'm like, I hear other people saying this. And they're like, Oh, you ever kids a lot? I'm like, No, I haven't 50% And they're like, Yeah, whoa, that's a lot for you. And I'm like, What are you talking about? And I forget this, that whole conversation before that's weird.
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Speaker 2
32:49
That's, you know, our generation grew up with movies. That messed us up a lot of movies. I was perpetuated these things Miss Doubtfire? So that's how divorces went
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Speaker 1
33:01
you're correct on that. There is on the way there. Yeah, that made me sad if you if you if you watch it again. And then yeah, having to sneak in as a translator, grandma, right. Trans ma we get to our, the
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
33:27
god demonised sweater Mrs. Doubtfire. No before that. The Mork and Mindy. For that, for that
33:36
San Francisco comic. Dammit, I lost my train of thought anyway.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
33:43
Talking about timeshares with kids.
33:46
Oh, just No, it was after.
33:48
No
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
33:48
Haha No, you're doing it. Mark this clip we're gonna chop it up. No out there. Nike tried to play it off. You can I think it was funny. Shit.
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Speaker 1
33:59
That got a lot actually. best performing clips clip of me going to but you got to rewatch that episode. Hongqi cuz you were. You're pretty out of it. Oh, yeah. I didn't realize until we were deep in the pod. All right, I think we're we can split this one into two. If you made it this whole way. Thank you very much. Love you. You can go on sweat equity pod send us a question.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
34:32
Send us clips of you go to
34:35
if you send us I really love I would
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
34:37
that I would actually if we got like 100 of those. I'd love that. I love it all together. Okay,
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Speaker 1
34:42
I'd love to have I'd love to have a scenario where people FaceTime video questions in that we can play on the pod.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
34:49
So send us videos of questions or something
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Speaker 1
34:51
I don't know. Send us questions time we'll be live sweat equity pod on all socials. We're going to step up our game. Your brains coming back to normal.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
34:59
It's kind Going back.
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Speaker 1
35:01
Oh, what? I should pull you aside like you pulled the little kid aside and be like, Hey, let's come and do
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
35:08
it is you're improving. You're doing good little brain.
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Speaker 1
35:11
Hey, you might get most improved this semester. The best trophy out there? Maybe not when you know we have no chance to MVP Yeah. Wait a second for sure.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
35:23
Six man
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Speaker 1
35:25
that means you sucked and you worked your butt you earned it Yeah. You improved isn't tell on I'm telling from experience. I'm like a triple time most improved athlete
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
35:38
you're gonna win it every year for like five years because you can barely dribble
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Speaker 1
35:41
well, and then you slow play it to try to win the trophy. Like good or bad I suck at the beginning so you make the team but just barely. And then you fucking crush it. All right. Sweat equity pod.com We're going to improve that website to that's another project. Oh, the other thing I have for you was gonna say other than the kid trying to help the kids outside of school, I think or basketball coach, I think you need a project to get your brain back to 100% Yeah, I think you need a like a woodworking project like something when your hands Yeah, not art. Oh, I think you need like a lot of dude do but something with your hands that you project. All right. Just throwing it out there.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
36:25
What kind of work are you asking me to do at your house? You know, like, please my cabinets.
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Speaker 1
36:31
I'll help you make the date table for the studio. If our if our I'll help verticals. Know, we'll have to get the circles pre cut and sand. Yes. Okay, but something that we can we can cut the rest of it.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
36:51
You mean? Give it a circumcision?
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Speaker 1
36:57
Yeah. That's my favorite Jimmy Kimmel joke. Why aren't all the penises in Europe that are graffitied everywhere. Why are they uncircumcised? I just love that. Drawing
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
37:09
points. Drawing penises
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Speaker 1
37:10
on things. Totally wake a move. No, no, it's just ubiquitous. It's all they do it. They do it all over the world. Yeah. Yeah. All right. Well, if you're an adult, go get circumcised. If you're not circumcised, you should go do that. That's another cool group of guys.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
37:29
What the adult circumcised guys are the guys that are not certain
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Speaker 1
37:33
but the ones that are you took my foreskin guys. And then the other group is the ones that do it later in life. They're not really unified as much.
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Eric Readinger, Fractional ...
37:44
Sorry, we got the digital overload, overload and then I just lost it. Bye bye.
